From donning a Bikini in Pageants To Marrying a Man from Rival country – To Care or not to Care? :)

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"I was really sad yesterday. It is really upsetting for me. I don't know if it happens in any other country. I don't know how many times I will have to justify my Indianness, prove my patriotism," Sania said during an interview while holding back tears.
“I was really sad yesterday. It is really upsetting for me. I don’t know if it happens in any other country. I don’t know how many times I will have to justify my Indianness, prove my patriotism,” Sania said during an interview while holding back tears. (Photo: http://www.hcfoo.com)

So yesterday we saw Sania Mirza crying on the TV because some person of high authority questioned her being Indian.  She said she is tired of explaining to people that she is Indian and it does not matter if she has married a person from Pakistan.  It really made me think.  Why do people care so much about what others think?  Why should Sania care about what some person thinks of her nationality?  There are a lot of people who like her and are proud of her, why should she spend even a little time in pondering about the negative thinking of some person?

Sushmita Sen has been repeatedly commented about her changing boyfriends, hot scenes in few movies and even making bold comments like "no Indian has chastity or virginity anymore". But in spite of all this, she is one of the most respected women in India because she handles herself with a lot of humility, confidence, grace and pride.
Sushmita Sen has been repeatedly discussed by press for her changing boyfriends, hot scenes in few movies and even making bold comments like “no Indian has chastity or virginity anymore”. But in spite of all this, she is one of the most respected women in India because she handles herself with a lot of humility, confidence, grace and pride.

The same thing has to be kept in mind by girls participating in pageants too.  I remember watching on the news about Tanushree Dutta’s Top 10 placement in Miss Universe 2004 and one elderly woman nearby said how can she be Indian; her bikini is too skimpy!  Such judgement will be there.  Since we live in a sea of people, there will be a huge lot of opinions and many of them may not be of our taste.  But why to care about them?  Do you try all the dishes when you go to a restaurant?  You pick the ones you like and ignore rest.  Same goes here!  

Shruti Sharma boldly declared during Top 10 round of Miss India that she thinks entering Bollywood after Miss India is retrogressive, but she ended up doing some films like "Tezaab" after her reign as Miss India. Everyone has the right to evolve, grow and change opinions. :)
Shruti Sharma boldly declared during Top 10 round of Miss India that she thinks entering Bollywood after Miss India is retrogressive, but she ended up doing some films like “Tezaab” after her reign as Miss India. Everyone has the right to evolve, grow and change opinions. 🙂

What people say is often about them rather than about you.  It’s about their thought patterns.  It’s about their moods.  If the peon brought a bad tea, the person who is opining might say something different about any matter on which he is opining, as compared to if the peon had brought good tea.  Really, people can think one thing at one time and another thing at another time.  One can really not tie their feelings or self-worth to such fickle-minded lots.  What matters is what you think about yourself.  Is your opinion positive?  Is it kind?  Is it loving?  is it caring?  Is it humane?  That is all that matters.  What others think is their business.  It’s none of your business!

Priyanka Chopra has been bold often in her movies. May it be her character in Aitraaz, the steamy scenes in some of her movies or the sizzling bikini scenes - there is a lot about her that can be "commented" upon. But still, does it matter? Should she care about all this while she travels in her customized BMW? I won't. :)
Priyanka Chopra has been bold often in her movies. May it be her character in Aitraaz, the steamy scenes in some of her movies or the sizzling bikini scenes – there is a lot about her that can be “commented” upon. But still, does it matter? Should she care about all this while she travels in her customized BMW? I won’t. 🙂

It was really Sania’s tears that made me write all this. :)Too philosophical I agree – but it’s true: if you want happiness in your life, you have to stop caring much about what others think.  It is just not going to help!